DELAY VS DENIAL

DELAY VS. DENIAL 

3 TIPS TO HANDLING YOUR HOLDING PATTERN

You've got the winning concept. You had a light bulb moment that is going to change everything. You finally got your money together. You've finally decided to have "the talk." And then there is a curve ball at you. You had your mind and heart synchronized to move in the direction of your goal and just like that the wheels of progress grind to a screeching halt. The proverbial wind has gone out of your sails. You are now deflated rather than determined. Stop. Breath. It's time to stop thinking of delay as denial. We can't use a delay as our "get out of jail free" card and crawl back in our hole. You are in a holding pattern. All is not lost. Achievement of the goal is still possible. The energy, enthusiasm, and effort necessary has not evaporated its just on stand by. Resist the urge to look at a pause as period. You are still on the clock and in the game. Practice these 3 tips during delay:

1. Stay Focused. The plan has not changed. You are still on track. Be ready to take action when the delay is over. Resist the urge to become discouraged or distracted.
2. Review the Plan. This delay could be by design. Perhaps it's an opportunity for you focus on preparation for the endeavor. Take this time to evaluate the effort you going to undertake. The plan has not changed but it just might need a little tweaking to maximize results or impact.
3. Rest. This could very well be the calm before the storm. Once you get going you'll need your best energy to fuel your best effort. Take advantage of the opportunity that the delay provides to by allowing yourself to just be. Every moment doesn't have to be filled with motion. 

Remember, you are still on track and you are going to crush this next goal. You are delayed NOT denied.

-Coach Enna B

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Mastering the Act of Balance

Life creates a myriad of opportunities, obstacles and possibilities for us to explore and experience. It is our ability to achieve, maintain, and re-establish balance that determines the quality of our lives and relationships. Balance is key to keeping it all together and being able to enjoy it too. I remember a conversation with one of my mentors earlier in the year where I lamented that my plate was full and beginning to overflow and that this was causing me to to feel overwhelmed. He replied, "Enna, the plate may be full but it is YOU who decides what you eat and how much." Those words have remained with me and I have often shared them with clients and friends to give them a different perspective on managing a full life and schedule. 

We operate in many dimensions (mind, body and spirit just to name a few) and we must maintain balance in all of them. So many times we have our daily schedule in check but our health is challenged and we are operating on "E" spiritually. With those 3 very important dimensions out of order we remain out of balance. Our house might me clean but our minds are still cluttered. And so in order to master peace on purpose we must maintain balance in every dimension of our lives. Here are a couple of tips for maintaining balance in every dimension:

Create priorities for every dimension. When we do this we can then realistically see how each priority impacts our ability to maintain balance in every aspect of our lives and make the necessary adjustments.

Self evaluate on a regular basis. What worked last month may need to be tweaked for a better outcome this month. Don't be too rigid. Flexibility allows us to maintain our balance and reach our desired goals.

Balance is what gets us from where we are to where we need to be with our mind, body and spirit in a healthy space. As we walk this tight rope of life there are spots where we can't travel too quickly or we'll lose our balance and not have the benefit of enjoying all that life has to offer.  Pay attention to your balance. Pray about areas that need attention and then act in faith to make effective adjustments.

-Enna B